Showing posts with label adoption. Show all posts
Showing posts with label adoption. Show all posts

Sunday, November 16, 2014

Our Haiti Mission Trip. I didn't see that coming.




It smells like bug spray.  We must be camping, or in Haiti.   There are similarities:  lack of electricity, lack of internet connection, and lack of potable water.  This is my first mission trip. I’ve been involved in many ministries but never before have I paid to travel to a foreign country to help others.  

I didn’t see it coming but when my kids jumped at the chance to go on a mission trip to Haiti with Poverty Resolutions, because they wanted to help people, I was both surprised and full of joy at their desire.  Although all of the kids wanted to go we decided that I would take Josh, our 16 year old, and Caroline, our 14 year old, since we had no idea how we would pay for it.  Immediately the three of us were all-in.  

Fast forward about two months.

Saturday and Sunday.
After a day of travel, we’re there. The sweating began and didn’t stop until we got back to the states.  Shortly after my alarm went off on our first morning in Haiti, a rooster started crowing outside of our bathroom window.  I’m not sure why, but he never came back on subsequent mornings.  Maybe he was somebody’s dinner.  There was large pig that we passed every day on our way to and from our work site.  By the end of the week he wasn’t there.  Maybe he was someone's dinner too. 





While I was shopping for supplies for this trip I decided to buy some first aid medicine and equipment and throw in some of what I had at home including: a thermometer, tweezers, Benedryl,  Band-Aids, bandages, Neosporin, anti-itch cream, etc.  On Sunday, the first full day at the resort, we were swimming in the sea during our break time and Josh Stepped. On. A. Sea. Urchin.  After wiping off his foot I counted eight imbedded spines from it.   He was in a ton of pain which, thankfully, decreased significantly after a few minutes.   Josh is the one who discovered Stinging Nettles when first moved to Germany when he was 8 years old.  


I tried to get the Urchin-Spines out like I would a splinter but they kept breaking off and I couldn’t grasp them.  One of hotel staff, who didn’t speak English, smashed lime guts all over the wounded site and told us to wait.  No further instructions.  His foot started to get red and swell so I gave him Benedryl and texted my husband to see if he could Google whether or not I had to try to extract the barbed spines.  After many texts and a phone call the consensus was that I could leave them in but it’s recommended to use shaving cream and a razor to smooth the tips off and then the skin will absorb them.  Google said he should be fine as long as he doesn’t get an infection.  Yes, try to avoid having to seek medical care in the poorest country in the Western Hemisphere. 
Got it.












Monday.
Monday was first official work day.  We had a day of rest on Sunday because that’s what the Haitians do and we wanted to be considerate of their culture.  Volunteers either chose to play with kids at the orphanage or help build benches.  I pretty much have the whole how-to-play-with-kids thing figured out and I really wanted to learn how to do something so I went directly to the benches to get my hands on a drill and some screws.  Our group built three eight foot benches on the first day and five more on the second.  By the second day I knew the design of the bench and how to put it together.  I learned how to use a power drill to pre-drill holes for screws, change drill bits and tips, and screw and unscrew with the drill.  At home I can barely finish chewing a piece of food before someone needs me for something, and in Haiti, I. Finished. Something.  




Tuesday and Wednesday.
The church/school where we had VBS.
One of the other team members arranged to have a Vacation Bible School for the kids in the local village while we were on our trip.  VBS is something I’ve volunteered for many times and I wasn’t eager to volunteer for yet one more.   However, I thought I could help with the intent to learn to how to organize and run a VBS- something else I could learn how to do. Now I know how to pull a two day VBS for 200 kids out of a suitcase.  


  


The Boy Who Shared His Food
The pivotal moment of our trip occurred on Wednesday afternoon.  As a few of us sat outside at the orphanage one and two year old children sat at the table on the porch eating their rice-and-bean lunch.  Tim, a 16 year old team member, asked one of the boys how it tasted and then he mimed his question hoping that would translate to the toddler who only spoke Haitian-Creole.  Immediately the little guy scooped up a generous spoonful of his meal and offered it to Tim.  The boy never gets seconds and he offered some of what he had without hesitation.  It was the perfect picture of heaven where there is a ton a food and everyone shares.  The antithesis is a picture of hell where there may be a ton of food but everyone fights over it and no one eats.  Heaven was portrayed right there in that Haitian orphanage.  



One and two year old children are sent out to the porch from nap time where they sit and wait for lunch. 


Thursday.
Thursday brought another new experience.   As a retired nurse I was interested in Haitian medical care so I went to the village medical clinic with another nurse and his wife who were also part of my team.   We watched a doctor treat many patients in the tiny, unpretentious, cinder-block building.  Common complaints included fever, heart burn, and high blood pressure symptoms.  One 34 year old woman came in from the mountain.  It must have taken her hours if she came by foot down a rocky mountain path on the hot sun.  She said she has six kids and her baby was at the orphanage.  
The Medical Clinic
The Wonderful Doctor

The Pharmacy

One of four exam rooms.
Because I have six kids I felt a connection and I asked which orphanage her baby was in.  The doctor translated that her child was at the orphanage where our team was helping...where I was holding babies and playing with kids the day before.  I asked her what the baby’s name was.  She said Ashley.  Ashley?  Beautiful Ashley.  I saw her yesterday.  My teammate next to me had a picture of her on her camera in her hand.  Would the mom want to see the picture?  Would she want to know her baby was okay?  As my teammate and I looked at each other wondering, the doctor assessed and released her.  She was gone.  

Ashley
  
The children in the orphanages are destined to spend every day in the orphanage until they become an adult.  Nannies take care of the kids but they come and go and they are not moms to the children.  They are care takers.    
 
That night I found out that Haiti will start letting Americans adopt Haitian orphans next year.   Our family went through the entire adoption process a few years ago but we moved out of the country before we had children placed in our home.  Maybe we can adopt Ashley.  Maybe we can adopt Samuel or one of the sets of twins.  Or maybe Baelan.  He is the sweet 5 year old I held and played with that day who loved the attention because normally be he just stands or sits outside on a slab of cement with no toys and no mom.
      
Friday.
The next morning was our last work day.  We had one hour at the orphanage.  I waited for the nannies to bring Ashley out but they never did.  I don’t know why.  I spent a few minutes playing with Baelan and he just wanted to sit on my lap and play with my cell phone.  He cried when I had to get up to go.  Did you know that it’s possible to fall in love with a child who isn’t yours in less than 24 hours?  It is. 









Saturday.  

After a day of travel and a lifetime of memories, we’re home. 



 If you can't feed a hundred people, then feed just one.  ~Mother Theresa




How can the poorest country in the Western 
Hemisphere get out of poverty?   



Saturday, June 23, 2012

Crazy. Helpful. Caring. Gap Fillers.

You could have blinked and missed the few posts I wrote about our journey to adopt that started last December.

Two steps forward. One step back.

Somehow in the past few weeks the journey became a sprint. Still the forward and backward thing. But, now at what seems like lightening speed.

 Oh, we had to re-do our entire packet of paperwork after ours was, unfortunately...lost.

At least we have some bragging rights now, "Oh yeah, well we had to do our whole packet twice"!

 About two days ago when we thought we would finally be licensed (allowing us to receive kids) we found out that there is yet another new necessary form. 

We need to have at least one person who is willing to care for our foster kids (they will be foster kids until the adoption is final) in case of emergency.  Oh, is that all?

Hmmm.  Who do we know who would be willing to take in children for an indefinite period of time?

No huge list here.  Okay.  The list is blank.  Not sure if this is a good idea or not, I posted the situation on a few of my homeschool groups' pages.  Almost immediately, no I think it was immediately, I had a handful of ladies saying they were willing to do be our "respite care provider" in case of an emergency.  Although they are in my groups, I didn't actually know most of them.  As I'm writing this the offers are still coming!!

They were sincere.  Caring.  Responsive.  Busy, I'm sure, moms.  Incredible.

Ezekiel 22: 30  "I looked for a man among them who would build up the wall and stand before me in the gap on behalf of the land so I would not have to destroy it, but I found none. 
 These ladies saw a gap and were ready and willing to fill it.  Thank you ladies.

What gaps do you think you were meant to fill? 
 

Tuesday, June 5, 2012

Why I Dread Summer

Hmmmm.

Thinking.

Still  thinking.

Nope.  Can't think of ANY reason why I dread summer.  What's to dread?!

 I love having 'off' in the summer.   

 As Buddy the Elf would say, "It's my favorite."

I guess it's not really off, just more of a change of pace.  As a matter of fact, during dinner tonight my kids were dicussing some grammar rules.   So, noooooooo, we're not off.  

However, my whole family looks forward to the more leisurely days.  Here are the 
top ten things
  that we are 
looking forward to doing this summer:
1.  Levi (age 3) has swim lessons for two weeks. 
2.   Summer campsLuke (age 16) and Josh (age 14) will attend Home School Legal Defense Association's GenJ government camp in Colorado in August.  Luke, Sophia and Caroline will also go to  other summer camps (church,  gymnastics, horse). 
3.  Host a 12 year old girl from Spain and a 16 year old boy from France for three and a half weeks so they can learn English.
 4.  Go to the beach in Texas for a week with our family (and our two exchange students).
5.  Steve and I will continue attending Toastmasters meetings and I'll be preparing to teach my year long speech class to 7th-12th grade students next year.
6.  Caroline (age 12) will have her friend, who lives two hours away, come stay for awhile.
7.  Compete in a (few) mini-triathlon(s).  Luke will do his first one.  It's scheduled for next Sunday but it may be cancelled...ugh..  we'll find more.
 8.  Maybe, just maybe, take Luke to get his driver's license.
 9.  Proceed with the adoption process.
10.  Celebrate my birthday in August (or maybe I'll just celebrate the anniversary of my 29th birthday!).
 
And here is something that will take most of my time, but not something that I'm necessarily looking forward to:   
  •  Preparing for next year's school year.  That alone, could fill the entire summer.  
I wonder why it takes so long to do that?  Can't I just have each child follow the schedule of the oldest as they get to be his age?

Sigh.

No.

As I think about that, that could actually be worse!  Having each child take the same courses that the child before him/her took.  That wouldn't work.

They need individualized schedules/curricula,  and we need to change schedules/curricula based on what's going on with our family that year.

Now I feel better about spending that time preparing for the next year!

Pro 21:5  The plans of the diligent lead to profit as surely as haste leads to poverty. 

Galatians  6:9 Let us not become weary in doing good, for at the proper time we will reap a harvest if we do not give up.


How do you prepare for next year's school?  

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Tuesday, May 29, 2012

Top Ten Events From This School Year

I started this blog at the beginning of the school year and frequently I think about certain days/events that I wrote about.  They may not make the most memorable events in world history...okay, they definitely won't.  But, they stand out in my mind for some reason.
This is a top ten list of the events, not necessarily my top ten blogs.  Does that make sense?  They are the most memorable things that weaved their way through the fabric of my life this past school year.  

No doubt, after I hit "publish" and send this out, I'll go...wait...maybe I should switch that one.  Here are some that didn't make the top ten, but could/should have!
 Not in any particular order, except for #1: 
my personal top ten things that keep coming to (my) mind that I blogged about this school year.....{Click on them to read the post!}

10. Started my blog 

9.  Speech class

8.   Toastmasters

7.   Adoption.

6.  We're getting exchange students again this summer!

5.  Our small group ministry

4.  My Friend's husband was killed inAfghanistan

3. Get a Homeschool Mentor 

2.   Ice Cream Social    My kids love to go to this at the beginning of the school year.

1.  Krispy Kreme Field Trip  Isn't that sad sort of?!   The highlight of the school year was about donuts?!  But, so often I think about how much fun it was to tour a donut store and decorate our own donuts that were the best I ever tasted!


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