Tuesday, March 6, 2012

5 Conversations You Must Have With Your Daughter.

For me, 5 conversations you must have with your daughter by Vicki Courtney is a pragmatic necessity.  That's because I have trouble thinking of these things on my own.   I have already started using this book a guide even though I've only read through Conversation One.  

Here are the 5 conversations:
1.  You are more than the sum of your parts.
2.  Don't be in such a hurry to grow up.
3.  Some things are worth waiting for (my version). 
4.  It's ok to dream about marriage and motherhood.
5.  Girls gone wild are a dime a dozen-dare to be virtuous.

 In Conversation One,  "You are more than the sum of your parts," Mrs. Courtney discusses beauty vs. physical attractiveness, weight, body image, cellulite, fashion magazines, music, fashion and more.  These are subjects to start talking to your daughter(s) about from the age of 5 and up.  Below are some of her points that stood out, although there are many more.  The reading is definitely engaging.
  •  Before mirrors were prevalent in homes women desired to be virtuous rather than beautiful (vanity was considered a sin).  Mirrors became in vogue in the 1920's. 

  • Only 8% of US women have an hourglass shape.  The average woman is 5ft 3.8 in and weighs 163 pounds.  

  • Cellulite begins to appear on girls around the age of 14.  It's not linked to being fat.
  • The onset of Hip-Hop music is linked with the verbal degradation of women.

  • 1 Samuel 16:7 "Man looks at the outward appearance, but the Lord looks at the heart".

Beauty is more than the sum of your parts.  You won't hear that from most people in our culture, especially not the media.  True beauty (virtue) is timeless. 

Does this have anything to do with homeschooling?  Just to clarify Mrs. Courtney doesn't promote long denim jumpers and no make up.  She says, "There is nothing wrong with beautifying the temple as long as it's done in good taste and is not your primary focus".  She even dresses fashionably and gets her hair highlighted!


  1. I love these thoughts - filing them away for later!

  2. Thanks Dianna,
    I need to read the next 4 conversations and hopefully write some notes about them too!